Zayda Zabriskie, 1914 |
And that was just 11 days
after she secured a divorce from husband #3, in Reno.
Later on, Romer
said they were childhood sweethearts. So you have to wonder what happened during
the years between.
It reminds me of Rhett
Butler’s line in Gone with the Wind:
“I can’t go all my life waiting to catch you between husbands.”
After marrying in 1936, Romer
and Zayda were together until her death two decades later.
The pair probably met in the
Bay Area where both grew up. His father left the family a few years after Romer
was born in 1888. His mother, Ada Romer Shawhan, a painter and illustrator,
worked out of a studio on Sacramento Street in San Francisco. And his
beautiful, ethereal sister, Violet, pursued a career as a modern dancer.
Romer attended
Lick-Wilmerding High School and graduated with technical and college
preparatory degrees. At age 17, he submitted a plan to redesign
the city’s Dolores Park, on the western edge of the Mission District. Romer’s
design clearly was inspired by the work of the landscape architect, Frederick
Law Olmsted, Sr. The city fathers chose it
but before anything could be done, the earthquake happened.
Ada, Romer, and Violet all
were bold, creative, and enterprising.
In 1910 Romer went to New
York City to study architecture at Columbia University. Zayda Zabriskie already
lived there with her parents. She attended Brearley and Miss Porter’s before
heading off to Bryn Mawr.
Her father, Christian
Brevoort Zabriskie, made his fortune as vice president and general manager of
the Pacific Coast Borax Company. Zabriskie Point in Death Valley is named for
him. The company’s 20-mule teams hauled the borax from the mines to the nearest
railroad in Mojave, California.
Zayda stayed just one year at
Bryn Mawr before marrying Frank Buck, heir to a California fruit company, who inherited
great wealth and invested it well. The ceremony took place in New York at the
Little Church Around the Corner on 29th Street.
Zayda Zabriskie Buck in her wedding gown, pictured in the New York Sun, April 30, 1911 |
After the wedding, and after
Zayda had been presented in her wedding gown at the Court of St. James, the
couple moved to the West Coast where their four children were born.
Meanwhile, Romer studied in
Paris at the Ecole des Beaux-Arts. Returning home, his projects included various
office buildings around the country.
The U.S.
entered World War I in April 1917. In August, Romer enlisted in the Air Service
and became a lieutenant and fighter pilot. He served as Assistant Operations
Officer on the staff of General William Mitchell, Chief of Air Service in the
American First Army. Romer’s fellow pilots included Eddie Rickenbacker and
Theodore Roosevelt’s son, Quentin, who was killed during a dogfight in the
Second Battle of the Marne.
Romer received the Pershing
Army Citation, the Croix de Guerre, and the Distinguished Service Medal.
Through the 1920s, he worked
with several prestigious architectural firms, living in Cleveland,
Philadelphia, and Indianapolis. Building materials especially interested him.
He published articles about slate, terra cotta, and marble.
Out in
California, Zayda stuck with Mr. Buck (who later served in the U.S. House of
Representatives as a New Deal Democrat) until the mid-1920s. Then they divorced
and she married Scott Springer Hendricks, who also ran for the House (as a
Republican) but lost.
In 1927, Zayda and Scott
testified on behalf of a friend in a custody case before the New York State
Supreme Court. The cast of characters included a deceitful father, an
adulterous mother, a blind aunt who stated the child always looked dirty, a
maternal grandmother whose Garden City home was said to lack sufficient yard
space, and a governess who was ill or told to be ill whenever a dashing real
estate developer came around . . . largely
played out against the backdrop of dozens of dinner parties in San Mateo where
liquor flowed freely.
Zayda displayed some wit on
the stand but she definitely stayed with her story.
Sometime in the early 1930s,
Zayda and Scott divorced, and she married a lawyer named Mark Daniels. A few
years later, she divorced Daniels in Nevada and within two weeks married Romer.
He was working for the
Federal Government so they lived in Washington. During World War II, he served
four years as a lieutenant colonel in the U.S.A.F. The man must have adored
flying.
After the war, they bought a house
in Mount Vernon, N.Y., where family antiques, art, and relics were arranged
throughout the spacious rooms. Subsequently, Romer helped found the Marble
Institute of America. This organization brought together quarriers,
wholesalers, importers, finishers, and contractors to create standards for
quality and craftsmanship of marble.
After Zayda
died in 1956, Romer stayed in the house with his sister Violet. They lived out
their days painting and reading. Romer died in 1970 and is buried with Zayda at
the Lone Mountain Cemetery in Carson City, Nevada, surrounded by Zabriskies.
Shawhan House, Mt. Vernon, N.Y. |
https://www.throughthehourglass.com/2016/04/the-long-arms-of-zayda-zabriskie.html
See also April 13, 2016 + December 29, 2015 posts.